I can’t say that my dating experience is all that huge but I can tell the difference between dating blessed and dating unblessed.
When I was dating my ex-husband, sure he took me out to nice places and some expensive dinners. But my ex and I got physical fast and all to soon that was all the relationship was about. I of course thought that I was getting love, when all he was getting was his physical needs met.
Not to say that my current boyfriend hasn’t taken me out to some very nice places, but we can be just as happy no where special just talking.
I was not staying within the laws of God and this caused me great guilt for my sin. I knew better and as a Christian felt awful that I was breaking God’s commandment to stay pure.
I saw red flags in the relationship but since we had done the act I believed that in God’s eyes we were man and wife already so I better go through with it. We had already made ourselves one flesh now it was time to just make it official. It was a very unhappy and unblessed marriage the main reason is God was never truly invited into the relationship. My ex had no leadership in this area and later in our marriage had no desire to have anything to do with God or anyone that had anything to do with Him. Obviously I couldn’t stay in that environment.
I do not wish a divorce on anyone but now that my dating is blessed by God. I would highly encourage you to invite God into your dating relationship. If both of you are not willing to do that, that should be a warning sign of things to come.
Let me speak to the woman out there for just a moment. You want a man that will lead you in all things but most importantly in spiritual matters. I’m very fortunate because that is what I have now. We pray together and praise God together. We are looking into what verse to work on memorizing and looking at starting a Bible study together. These are the type of qualities we all should be looking for in a husband. Not that your man has to lead you in spiritual matters the exact same way that mine does, but you should be looking and praying for a man of God if you are dating and want God’s best for you.
This time my dating is different. We are taking things slowly and this includes holding hands except for when we pray together. We have had no need as of yet to have the physical boundary talk because we have done nothing other than hug. But when that time comes I know my limits and am ready to stand true to what God has shown me is all I can do. Which by the world’s standards is not much.
Women be still give him the opportunity to lead and bless you by being the man of God of your dreams and then you too will be dating blessed.
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Joy's Words of Encouragement 
I really enjoyed reading this, thank you! I was in what seemed like a “perfect” relationship over the summer that came about suddenly, however ignored the red flags and the fact that Christ wasn’t present in the relationship…needless to say it failed. It was a good learning experience to remind me what to look for first. I wrote about it in my “The Armor of God” post if you’re interested in reading. Follow? Thanks! 🙂
I’m so sorry for the pain of the broken relationship and having to learn the hard way, it is never fun. But I rejoice with you in that now you are looking in God’s way for the man He has waiting for you. You will be blessed for obeying God in this manner. I can’t wait to hear about the man of God He brings into your life to bless you.
Thank you! Yes, I believe God allowed me a chance to see the difference of a relationship that rejects Christ and remind me to keep Him as the root of every relationship.