Lora’s Lesson – A Short Story – Part 1

If you had asked Lora she would have told you that there was nothing wrong with her. In her eyes she was perfectly alright and in no need of change. But if you asked those close to her they might have said, “She can be cold and prickly.” Or “Sometimes she seems rather hard.” Only one person really might have understood her. One who had been so close at one time that instead of calling each other friends they referred to one another as sisters. But Lynn had been out of the picture for over four years now.

Lora was a conscientious employee and worked very hard for nine years but in the past four years she had become more and more cantankerous, and critical, often blowing up over minor mistakes by fellow employees. In fact lately the other employees had started to avoid her. She’s noticed that she was spending more lunches alone. Puzzled by this, she couldn’t put her finger on the reason why. She had always seen herself as gregarious and outgoing and a lot of fun, all of which were true as long as you didn’t cross her. It was sometimes very tricky to pinpoint what she’s had done. She was very charismatic and cut you with humor while smiling all the time. While you’re left wondering what just happened?

Lora didn’t always abuse her charisma. In fact it is was what attracted Lynn to her in the first place, as well as her humor, playfulness, compassion, loyalty and empathy. Lynn’s heart broke when the friendship fell apart. She has been hoping that they could find a way to reconcile. Her nightly prayer was; “Lord, I know what I did was wrong and I have asked Your forgiveness, which I thank You for giving me. Father, I have tried to speak to Lora to apologize and ask her forgiveness but she won’t take my calls; she returns my mail and refuses to open the door when I go to her house. Lord, please soften her heart that she would be willing to accept my apology and that our friendship would be restored. I so miss the old Lora.”

The two women had been friends since that first day of first grade. They met on the play ground when bullies were taunting Lynn a spunky and feisty Lora came to her rescue. This sealed their friendship. Not that Lynn needed defending but even at that tender age Lora had a tender heart coupled with a take charge streak.

Time went on, and when the girls reached high school they blossomed into beautiful, popular, young women. They were both on the girls varsity volleyball team. Lora was of course the team captain. They were also very involved in the drama department. This is where Lynn shone. She got the lead in nearly every production, and Lora was always there to cheer her on.

In her junior year, Lynn fell madly in love with Curtis Madding the varsity quarterback. They started dating in November and things started getting serious by Christmas. She started feeling pressured to go all the way. Curtis had big plans for New Year’s Eve. When he let Lynn in on the scheme she felt half exhilarated but mostly terrified. She had visions of how the night would go; dinner at a fancy restaurant, going dancing afterwards, and then a romantic intimate encounter in the hotel room. Things were going just as Lynn had imagined. They had a lovely dinner at “Pierre’s” the most expensive restaurant in town. Curtis had arranged for fake ID’s for them and Lora and her date Tom. So after dinner the four of them met at the “Club Venice”. Lynn was apprehensive about this because she had seen Curtis overdue on alcohol before and really didn’t want to be around him when he was drunk. As she suspected the first thing Curtis did at the club was to order a beer and chasers. She went to Lora and said, “I’m getting scared, Curtis keeps drinking and he is getting more and more aggressive, and demanding. I tried to get him to stop but he pinned me against the wall. Can you and Tom please give me a ride home?” Lora was distracted by the party atmosphere had no desire to leave so she replied, “Oh, Lynn don’t be such a baby. It’ll be okay. He’ll probably just pass out and sleep it off.” Lynn asked, “Do you have your cell phone so I could call a ride home or some change for the phone?” Lora responded, “No I didn’t bring a purse with me I knew Tom would be taking care of everything. Buck up everything will be okay, your such a worry wort.” Lynn walked away feeling deflated and abandoned. She then realized that she had no money to call her mom and dad and left her cell phone charging; she realized Curtis was her only way home, perhaps she could reason with him. Deciding to numb her fears she ordered a rum and coke. She was still nursing it when midnight hit and Curtis pulled her toward him and gave her a sloppy French kiss then said, “Come on baby it’s time to go.” He grabbed Lynn’s arm hard and dragging her out of there, much to her dismay. Before she knew it she was in his truck on the way to the room. All the way she kept telling Curtis, “Please, no! I don’t want to anymore! I’ve changed my mind! Curtis, please take me home! Oh, please, please, no!” Curtis replied only once, “Look you stop being such a tease! I’ll take you home when the evening is over and it’s not over yet you bitch!”

Honor Your Body

“The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.  Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself?  Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute?  Never!  Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?  For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.’  But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

Flee from sexual immorality.  All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.  Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?  You are not your own; you were bought with a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”

1 Corinthians 6:13b-20

There was a time looking at verse 20 “you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”  I thought that that was all inclusive.  Meaning if I had eating issues I was not honoring God with my body. But if you look in context of the scripture that is not what it is saying.

Let’s start at verse 12 and go to 13a:

“‘Everything is permissible for me’ – but not everything is beneficial.  ‘Everything is permissible for me’ – but I will not be mastered by anything.  ‘Food is for the stomach and the stomach is for food’ – but God will destroy them both.”

As far as food is concerned the question is not is it permissible but is it beneficial. I had allowed food to become my master and that is where the problem is.  Nothing should be master over me other than my Precious Lord.

So the question then came to me if eating right was no longer how I honored God with my body what was it?  I had to look at the scripture in context and then it became very simply to know what God wanted of His children.  He even says it. “Flee sexual immorality!”

I’ve been single for 22 years and I know that this isn’t always a popular topic in any community to talk about.  In the secular community it isn’t politically correct to talk about sexual immorality.  As a matter of fact it is believed that sexual freedom is a part of our constitutional rights.

But those of us that follow God’s law are called to a higher standard.  We are called to sexual purity.  There is no place for sex outside of marriage!  It is Biblical.  It breaks my heart when I hear of Christians struggling in this area.  Not to say that I haven’t in my past but we have the fruits of the Spirit to help us one being self-control.

From my experiences if I go beyond where I can remain pure in not just body but mind as well, I’m sunk and self-control is out the window.  So I had to look at where my boundaries are for dating, since this recently became part of my life.  What can I do that will keep me pure physically and mentally.

This took some rigorous honesty with myself.  Is holding hands okay?  Is having his arm around me okay?  Yes as long as it is above the waste.  Is hugging alright? Definitely!  Is cuddling alright?  I think so.  Is kissing on the lips alright?  For me this is where I had to stop.  Kisses are very sexual to me and my mind then runs wild and sometimes my body.  So should it be God’s will that will wait for the man I marry, on my wedding day.

And oh will it be worth it!  You see I want to be as pure as possible and I want to do my best to avoid any traps the enemy may try to put in my way.  I want to be pleasing to God.

I also know that once the physical starts the talking and friendship development starts to suffer if you start to get to hot and heavy too fast.  With the right man I’ll have a lifetime for that.  But to find the right man is the most important thing and I don’t want to eliminate the courtship of learning about each other as friends and caring for that person without sex getting in the way.

I know my ways may sound foreign to many of you but I’m confident of this that my desires to please God and honor Him will be blessed.

If your in a relationship do yourself and your partner a favor and talk about what are your boundaries.  Do yourself the greatest favor and before you get together pray and seek God to help you find what is the best set of boundaries for you.  Then you can come together and see if you can honor one another’s boundaries.

Joy – A Woman After God’s Own Heart!